Kathleen asked her Peer to Peer group the question that often preys on all of our minds – what is the best way to extract opportunities from the wide range of relationships you have established? How do you bridge from a good relationship that you don’t want to jeopardize to asking for a referral?
The question sparked a very lively discussion with lots of suggestions and ideas.
- Keith suggested right up front that it is all about the relationship and only the relationship. If the relationship is established and strong, then the opportunity to talk business will occur.
- You need a system to manage relationships. Social Media makes the touch point and relationship management easier to accomplish.
- The purpose of the system is to keep you in the mind of the other person. It does not have to be overly frequent; it just needs to be consistent.
- Inventory your values and currencies; what do you offer that can help someone else?
- Help others get things done. Be generous with your time and efforts. You need to give before you can ever expect to get.
- In terms of business specifics be clear on what you have done. Think of at least 3 examples of client interactions where you or your firm has delivered value, as defined by the client. Document the instances.
- Case studies and testimonials are great story telling tools. Use them extensively.
- When seeking referrals make it easy for the other person to help you. Do not leave the responsibility for making a connection on the shoulders of the other person. You make the connection and ask permission to use someone’s name. This makes the connection “warm”.
- Be specific. Do the research and identify the individual or company you would like to connect with. Remember, it is not the responsibility of the other party to do your market research or sell for you. You simply want their endorsement to make the connection easier.
- Avoid the six most dreaded words you can ever hear — “I didn’t know you did that”. Be assertive and clear on what you do. Do not assume that just because you’ve known someone for a period of time that they understand what you do by osmosis.
Asking for and getting referrals requires a relationship first and foremost. It requires you to be clear on your value and to communicate that with clarity. It requires you to make it easy for the other party to make a connection become a “warm connection”.
